Why the two individuals are different? Why we are behaving in our own way? Why sometime we become so complex to understand? Why we often behave irrationally? I believe that there is always a rational reason behind any irrational behavior. If you ask someone why we are different? May be the probable answer would be the structure of our genome is different. But I believe we all are different because we brought up in different environment. As for example a child from a broken family has different values or perspectives of life compare to a child who brought up in a joint family. Human brain has a peculiar habit; it interprets everything in its own way. The glass is half full or half empty is not only a perspective of an optimist or pessimist, but it also dictates by the situation in which the individual is in. Why someone becomes an optimist or a pessimist? Do we ever try to find the answer? I believe that experiences make all the difference. The experience is the key factor between an optimist and a pessimist. Most of the time we become irrational because we are forcefully taken out from our comfort zone. What is this comfort zone? Comfort zone is that virtual area in which every situation is in our control or we have an answer for every question or we have a solution of every problem. But when we come out from the comfort zone we do not behave in the way we generally do. So to control over ourselves we need to expand our comfort zone. But life is full of uncertainties, so ………….. and if, still we become irrational we have the “BRAMHASTRA” . You do not know what’s that? That is “Dude we are human being and we bound to make mistakes”. But the “BRAMHASTA” can be used at the end to win the battle. Hence before that we have to do the root cause analysis for our irrational behavior and also if we get an irrational behavior in return of our rational behavior still we have to analyze the situation. Most importantly we should put ourselves into his/ her shoe. Because you never know what is bugging him/her? So in a nutshell try to expand the boundary of your comfort zone to be rational and if you fail to be rational use the “BRAMHASTRA” at the end.

In our life everything does not happen in the way we want. There are lots and loads of uncertainties, surprises, hilarious incidents, failures, success……… But still we want to make it certain, we fail but we keep on trying. We want a life which is under our control, which we can predict. If you ask someone what kind of life he/she wants he/she would probably say an easy life. I read a book call Choice by Goldratt. In that book he explains the difference between an easy life and a meaningful life. He says if we want to get an easy life we can bang our head and someone would bring food to our bed. I do not think anyone wants to live that life. Hence we want to have a meaningful life or can say a purposeful life. It is up to us to find out the meaning the purpose of our lives. Everyone has a purpose to fulfill in this world. It is true that we all are programmed for self-interest. What is the harm if we help someone to find out the meaning of his/her life? We say that we are making compromises in our lives. Is it always true?? I do not think so. Compromise is not to “share an infinite cake” but to share a finite one. Compromise is also not to share a cake that is too small to share. It is not an approach where you win at the cost of my failure. If that would be the situation then trust me you would end up in sheer frustration. This is one of the reasons of broken relationships. Another reason is lack of harmony in a relationship. Harmony is “compatibility in opinion and action, a win-win solution”. Without the harmony one just drags the relation. The real problem is we love our self the most hence we do not criticize ourselves, do not asses or analyze ourselves. The easy way to avoid all this is to blame others. It is true that we have a tendency to blame others. We do not want to find the real reason why we fail? What is that key ingredient which is not there in our relation? Nope, we do not bother to find out. So what this relationship is failed? There is always a next time dude. Yes, true there is always a next time but how many times you would say this to yourself? Buck up before it is too late.

Sab Ganda Hai par Dhanda Hai Yeh

Today in this world everyone wants money. But there are many hypocrites who do not want to confess this truth. There is another truth that every one of us is power hungry. We want power. We love power. We want to do business not only we want to earn more & more money but we want power. We do not want to work under any one. We want everyone to work under us. There is nothing wrong in that. It’s what we want. We pray to god, we afraid of him because he is the most powerful. We afraid of power, because power speaks. The social entrepreneur talks to share the profit with the underprivileged children, with the poor. But if we do not satisfy our need, our luxurious needs how can we share the profit with them??? So we need to earn more and more and more. Sorry to say but Gandhi ki zamana gaye. This is the era of survival of the fittest. There is a strategy called “blue water strategy” it says that everyone should work together. I would work in my niche and some XYZ would work in his niche. So there would not be any problem. But why should I be satisfied in 50% or equal market share of my competitors?? I am not doing any social service. I am doing my business and that also to earn 100% market share. So now there is only one strategy and that is “red water strategy”. I want to win, I want to get the power, and I want to have the super power. Do not you think that Manmohan Singh also thinks like that?? I think so. He thinks if India would be in the position of America then he can rule the world. Indirectly he also wants power. Now we do not feel bad for any one’s failure. Because someone’s failure means one more opportunity for me in this business world. So we feel happy. In Bengali there is a proverb “karor poushmash karor sarbonash”. But we are social animal, most beautiful creation of god. We cannot say we are happy because he/she is failed. Such hypocrites we are. If someone gives bribe to other we criticize him or her. We never appreciate his/her talent that he/she finds out that what is the price tag of the other person. Everyone is saleable in this world. Someone is sold for money, someone sold for love or emotions. So we all are saleable. Most amazingly to justify all this bribery we give the process as different name. As for example to give bribe to our client to pitch our product we call the process as sales promotion. Is not it funny??? We blame reliance by saying they bribe the government officials to get their job done. But we invest a lot of money in their shares. If they are corrupted then we are also the part of that corruption. They also generate works for the society. So chill do not think about all this. It is all about money. It is all about power. Ultimately boss “yeh dhanda hai”.

Corruption is within us

Ethics, honesty, loyalty all these abstract nouns can not be taught by others. These are what should be within us. But unfortunately very few of us have ethics, very few of us are honest & loyal. May be many of us would not accept the truth. Then answer the questions to yourself. If you would sit for an exam & there are no invigilators, would you not copy? If your answer is no, then why we need invigilators in the exam hall? How many of us do not use the pirated software? How many of us do not watch the pirated CD of movies? Honestly, I am also not an exception. We all are corrupted. That is the reason that our whole system is corrupted. When we are not honest then why do we expect that from others? After all, we choose our leader, ministers among ourselves. They are not anyone who is out of the world. Still we want them to be honest so what we are not. We are very happy that our economy is the second largest in the world. But do we ever notice the income inequality in our country? Why the naxalite activities increase now days? Do we ever try to know what they want? Do we ever try to find out the reason?i am not justifying their acts. But we can not deny that income inequality is one of the reasons. Mr. Mukesh ambani is flying in his private plane. He gave his wife awesome luxury jet($ 65000000) on her birthday. What about the 42% people of India? Their income is $ 1.25 per day. Congress made schemes, budget for the aam admi. Who is the aam admi then? What is the definition of aam admi? In business world how many of them are ethical? I am not talking anything about the tycoons. We know about them. What about the small merchandisers? They are also not doing business in an ethical way. What is merchandising? As per the bookish definition, “merchandising is doing the right thing, in a right time, at a right price, in a right quantity, for the right customers”. In our college canteen, we eat a sandwich, which is decently packed. We have to pay Rs.20/- for that. But that packaging does not have any manufacturing date or expiry date neither it has any price tag. Awesome, is not it? We are having the sandwiches and we are happy. Is this an ethical merchandising? I do not know that if anyone ever notice the manufacturing/expiry date of the bevarages what has served in airways. Last time when I wa stravelled in Indian airline, the manufacturing date of creamer was smerged in black ink. Was it the fault of Indian airways? I do not know. They might not even check that or do not bother to check that. But obviously it was the fault of the merchadiser. Who pushed his stock to avoid the losses. Is this an ethical merchandising? No books talk about the ethical merchandising. It is we who have to define. It should be within us. No law, no book can teach us this basic knowledge of being a human.

Nothing wrong in being selfish

I believe that every human being is selfish. They want to do something which gives them peace, their mental peace, self-satisfaction. As for example: we give cloths to beegers or help those who under distress. None of us do it selflessly. We do these because when we live we have all sorts of other pains to take “out of our mind” which required the selfish motivation of somehow getting rid of them. And we do to the best of our abilities. Those who do it “selflessly” are actually doing the same thing because they can’t bear the thought of living while they see suffering and anguish in the world. It pains them. Some are even enlightened people who turn back from a guaranteed personal salvation to help others because of selfish motives.