In our life everything does not happen in the way we want. There are lots and loads of uncertainties, surprises, hilarious incidents, failures, success……… But still we want to make it certain, we fail but we keep on trying. We want a life which is under our control, which we can predict. If you ask someone what kind of life he/she wants he/she would probably say an easy life. I read a book call Choice by Goldratt. In that book he explains the difference between an easy life and a meaningful life. He says if we want to get an easy life we can bang our head and someone would bring food to our bed. I do not think anyone wants to live that life. Hence we want to have a meaningful life or can say a purposeful life. It is up to us to find out the meaning the purpose of our lives. Everyone has a purpose to fulfill in this world. It is true that we all are programmed for self-interest. What is the harm if we help someone to find out the meaning of his/her life? We say that we are making compromises in our lives. Is it always true?? I do not think so. Compromise is not to “share an infinite cake” but to share a finite one. Compromise is also not to share a cake that is too small to share. It is not an approach where you win at the cost of my failure. If that would be the situation then trust me you would end up in sheer frustration. This is one of the reasons of broken relationships. Another reason is lack of harmony in a relationship. Harmony is “compatibility in opinion and action, a win-win solution”. Without the harmony one just drags the relation. The real problem is we love our self the most hence we do not criticize ourselves, do not asses or analyze ourselves. The easy way to avoid all this is to blame others. It is true that we have a tendency to blame others. We do not want to find the real reason why we fail? What is that key ingredient which is not there in our relation? Nope, we do not bother to find out. So what this relationship is failed? There is always a next time dude. Yes, true there is always a next time but how many times you would say this to yourself? Buck up before it is too late.