Why the two individuals are different? Why we are behaving in our own way? Why sometime we become so complex to understand? Why we often behave irrationally? I believe that there is always a rational reason behind any irrational behavior. If you ask someone why we are different? May be the probable answer would be the structure of our genome is different. But I believe we all are different because we brought up in different environment. As for example a child from a broken family has different values or perspectives of life compare to a child who brought up in a joint family. Human brain has a peculiar habit; it interprets everything in its own way. The glass is half full or half empty is not only a perspective of an optimist or pessimist, but it also dictates by the situation in which the individual is in. Why someone becomes an optimist or a pessimist? Do we ever try to find the answer? I believe that experiences make all the difference. The experience is the key factor between an optimist and a pessimist. Most of the time we become irrational because we are forcefully taken out from our comfort zone. What is this comfort zone? Comfort zone is that virtual area in which every situation is in our control or we have an answer for every question or we have a solution of every problem. But when we come out from the comfort zone we do not behave in the way we generally do. So to control over ourselves we need to expand our comfort zone. But life is full of uncertainties, so ………….. and if, still we become irrational we have the “BRAMHASTRA” . You do not know what’s that? That is “Dude we are human being and we bound to make mistakes”. But the “BRAMHASTA” can be used at the end to win the battle. Hence before that we have to do the root cause analysis for our irrational behavior and also if we get an irrational behavior in return of our rational behavior still we have to analyze the situation. Most importantly we should put ourselves into his/ her shoe. Because you never know what is bugging him/her? So in a nutshell try to expand the boundary of your comfort zone to be rational and if you fail to be rational use the “BRAMHASTRA” at the end.

In our life everything does not happen in the way we want. There are lots and loads of uncertainties, surprises, hilarious incidents, failures, success……… But still we want to make it certain, we fail but we keep on trying. We want a life which is under our control, which we can predict. If you ask someone what kind of life he/she wants he/she would probably say an easy life. I read a book call Choice by Goldratt. In that book he explains the difference between an easy life and a meaningful life. He says if we want to get an easy life we can bang our head and someone would bring food to our bed. I do not think anyone wants to live that life. Hence we want to have a meaningful life or can say a purposeful life. It is up to us to find out the meaning the purpose of our lives. Everyone has a purpose to fulfill in this world. It is true that we all are programmed for self-interest. What is the harm if we help someone to find out the meaning of his/her life? We say that we are making compromises in our lives. Is it always true?? I do not think so. Compromise is not to “share an infinite cake” but to share a finite one. Compromise is also not to share a cake that is too small to share. It is not an approach where you win at the cost of my failure. If that would be the situation then trust me you would end up in sheer frustration. This is one of the reasons of broken relationships. Another reason is lack of harmony in a relationship. Harmony is “compatibility in opinion and action, a win-win solution”. Without the harmony one just drags the relation. The real problem is we love our self the most hence we do not criticize ourselves, do not asses or analyze ourselves. The easy way to avoid all this is to blame others. It is true that we have a tendency to blame others. We do not want to find the real reason why we fail? What is that key ingredient which is not there in our relation? Nope, we do not bother to find out. So what this relationship is failed? There is always a next time dude. Yes, true there is always a next time but how many times you would say this to yourself? Buck up before it is too late.

Sab Ganda Hai par Dhanda Hai Yeh

Today in this world everyone wants money. But there are many hypocrites who do not want to confess this truth. There is another truth that every one of us is power hungry. We want power. We love power. We want to do business not only we want to earn more & more money but we want power. We do not want to work under any one. We want everyone to work under us. There is nothing wrong in that. It’s what we want. We pray to god, we afraid of him because he is the most powerful. We afraid of power, because power speaks. The social entrepreneur talks to share the profit with the underprivileged children, with the poor. But if we do not satisfy our need, our luxurious needs how can we share the profit with them??? So we need to earn more and more and more. Sorry to say but Gandhi ki zamana gaye. This is the era of survival of the fittest. There is a strategy called “blue water strategy” it says that everyone should work together. I would work in my niche and some XYZ would work in his niche. So there would not be any problem. But why should I be satisfied in 50% or equal market share of my competitors?? I am not doing any social service. I am doing my business and that also to earn 100% market share. So now there is only one strategy and that is “red water strategy”. I want to win, I want to get the power, and I want to have the super power. Do not you think that Manmohan Singh also thinks like that?? I think so. He thinks if India would be in the position of America then he can rule the world. Indirectly he also wants power. Now we do not feel bad for any one’s failure. Because someone’s failure means one more opportunity for me in this business world. So we feel happy. In Bengali there is a proverb “karor poushmash karor sarbonash”. But we are social animal, most beautiful creation of god. We cannot say we are happy because he/she is failed. Such hypocrites we are. If someone gives bribe to other we criticize him or her. We never appreciate his/her talent that he/she finds out that what is the price tag of the other person. Everyone is saleable in this world. Someone is sold for money, someone sold for love or emotions. So we all are saleable. Most amazingly to justify all this bribery we give the process as different name. As for example to give bribe to our client to pitch our product we call the process as sales promotion. Is not it funny??? We blame reliance by saying they bribe the government officials to get their job done. But we invest a lot of money in their shares. If they are corrupted then we are also the part of that corruption. They also generate works for the society. So chill do not think about all this. It is all about money. It is all about power. Ultimately boss “yeh dhanda hai”.